Club FLARE (Friends Learning And Respecting Everyone) was developed in an effort to proactively meet the needs of Elmwood School's female fourth and fifth grade population in the fall of 2007. The club teaches girls about relational aggression, a phrase coined by leading relational expert, Dr. Nicki Crick of the University of Minnesota. Relational aggression has been around a long time, but didn't develop a label until the year 1995.
Relational aggression defines what takes place
when relationships are used to harm others. Girls most often use RA
against each other in covert or indirect forms. The other forms of
aggression are verbal and physical. Relational aggression is the most
hurtful form with devastating long term effects for the target. Covert
examples of RA include: eye rolling, facial expressions, hand motions,
Part of FLARE's purpose is to assist girls in recognizing the roles within relational aggression and problem solving how to deal with a relationally aggressive situation. Girls role play scenarios, discuss problem solving skills, and journal about their own experiences with friends and relational aggression.
Club FLARE meets Tuesday mornings at 7:25 am.